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Did I do something wrong here?

#1 Post by yamasidious » 28 Oct 2009 22:46

I am a guitarist and I have been looking for other musicians to form a band. I occasionally check a website setup for local musicians where I live. The other day there was a post from a drummer looking to start or join a metal band. So I sent him a PM and asked him "How long have you been playing?". His reply was "what does it matter how long I've been playing". Did I do something wrong here? As long as I've been playing that question has always been asked to me. I've never had a problem with answering the question. My reply to him was "I assume you haven't been playing for long or you would just answer the question instead of being sensitive about".

Just curious what you guys think about this. Was I out of line, or is this guy just a dick?

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#2 Post by Melkor90 » 30 Oct 2009 03:29

That was a completely legitimate question. You don't want some guy that's only been playing for two days in your band. He probably blows ass and is ashamed of it lol
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#3 Post by Mackasfour » 30 Oct 2009 12:48

yamasidious wrote:Was I out of line, or is this guy just a dick?
Yeah, he is
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#4 Post by Lilyael » 02 Nov 2009 18:54

Your reply shoulda been "it matters because the longer you've been playing, the better you presumably are"
It sounds obvious, but when me and me mates were trawling for musicians ( long time ago now, heh ) we had so many thick buggers that we ended up putting "must be able to actually play" on the ads. And then we couldn't find a drummer for love nor money.......
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#5 Post by End Of An Era » 02 Nov 2009 20:03

either he's been playing since birth and he's insulted, or he bought himself a pair of sticks yesterday and he calls himself a drummer now. Eitherway, you gotta answer this question: what does this reaction say about his attitude, and do you want to work with someone with such a short fuse?

my answer would be: no.

Anyway, good luck in finding a decent drummer!! i know that here in holland, they're very hard to come by, and it's even harder to find a good one....

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#6 Post by Mackasfour » 03 Nov 2009 07:34

I know 5 that don't play in a band. Now a bass player is a different story :P
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#7 Post by Lilyael » 03 Nov 2009 11:35

did you hear about the bass player who locked his keys in the car ? He had to call the fire brigade to get the drummer out.....


I'll get me coat.....
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#8 Post by Andreas » 03 Nov 2009 12:51

End Of An Era wrote:i know that here in holland, they're very hard to come by, and it's even harder to find a good one....
I'll try... patiently :mrgreen:

But for now I'm just a guy with drum sticks, looking for a drum set and only experience with the toms, cymbals and (lots of) snare drum, no footwork.

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#9 Post by yamasidious » 05 Nov 2009 01:17

End Of An Era wrote:either he's been playing since birth and he's insulted, or he bought himself a pair of sticks yesterday and he calls himself a drummer now. Eitherway, you gotta answer this question: what does this reaction say about his attitude, and do you want to work with someone with such a short fuse?

my answer would be: no.

Anyway, good luck in finding a decent drummer!! i know that here in holland, they're very hard to come by, and it's even harder to find a good one....
That is a very good point. Attitude is something that some musicians have a problem with. It is hard to find a good drummer. Until I can find one I will just continue writing music. At least if I do find one then I'll have some tunes ready to go for us to play.

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#10 Post by Andreas » 05 Nov 2009 15:10

Let me guess: the guy didn't reply (yet)? :lol:

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#11 Post by yamasidious » 08 Nov 2009 18:45

Andreas wrote:Let me guess: the guy didn't reply (yet)? :lol:

You are correct

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#12 Post by Mackasfour » 09 Nov 2009 03:06

I'll play drums for you, how hard could it be :mrgreen:
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#13 Post by Lilyael » 09 Nov 2009 12:25

me drummer ! me hit fings hard !

lol it's harder than it looks......
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#14 Post by yamasidious » 10 Nov 2009 00:54

LOL! Well if you guys can relocate to the USA (Georgia) then give me a hollar.

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#15 Post by Cerbere » 12 Nov 2009 06:08

Where I live like every other person is a drummer haha, a bassist is hard to find but luckily i am one. But to find a decent singer that likes metal, that's impossible.

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#16 Post by Mackasfour » 12 Nov 2009 06:31

My my, never seen a bassist
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#17 Post by Lilyael » 12 Nov 2009 11:41

You're lost in the woods and need to find someone to ask the way. You walk a little farther and you see Santa Claus, an in-tune bass player and an out-of-tune bass player. Which one do you ask for directions ?
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#18 Post by Mackasfour » 12 Nov 2009 12:16

I don't know... who?
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#19 Post by Lilyael » 12 Nov 2009 12:26

the out-of-tune bass player. The other two would indicate you're hallucinating...... :P
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#20 Post by Mackasfour » 12 Nov 2009 12:36

:lol:
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#21 Post by Cerbere » 15 Nov 2009 03:42

:(

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#22 Post by 1by4by9 » 24 Nov 2009 13:30

In my former band there was a bassist audition once... I had to tune the bass for this guy. :mrgreen: I didn't mind though, because I love to tune instruments. The bassist had his cigarette break too so everyone was happy.

What comes to the original dilemma in this thread: if you send a PM just asking how long someone has been playing it's probably quite possible to get a such response. I mean if that was all that you asked, without any polite introductions.

Good luck with the search! I'm sure you have a band in no time. :)

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#23 Post by End Of An Era » 24 Nov 2009 20:04

...and don't forget to post your demo tracks here!!! :D

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#24 Post by Andreas » 25 Nov 2009 09:40

Yes, I'm looking forward to track titles like

Somewhere Far Away
Imaginations from the Different Side
The Skald's Song
Bards and Shadows

Inspired, but... by what? :P

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#25 Post by Lilyael » 25 Nov 2009 22:55

oh...I need to write the lyrics for those ! *snortle*
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#26 Post by Andreas » 26 Nov 2009 09:24

Make sure you post them on the forum! :D

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#27 Post by teo_guardian » 29 Nov 2009 02:29

I want a drummer who can play stuff like Blind Guardian drums.....



is that possible?

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#28 Post by Gandalf de Grijze » 29 Nov 2009 13:14

sure.. ask Thomen
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#29 Post by Metal Fan » 03 Dec 2009 05:24

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#30 Post by power_dysfunction » 04 Dec 2009 09:20

teo_guardian wrote:I want a drummer who can play stuff like Blind Guardian drums.....



is that possible?
I know it would be much better to have a good drummer to practice with, but hey at least you've got the drum tracks I'm doing for your songs :)
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#31 Post by teo_guardian » 06 Dec 2009 06:16

yeah man i really apreciate your cooperation...actually you are part of the group..

But what i really want is to make a real band which will be able to play on gigs :cry:
and maybe try to sign with some record label..

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